hold onto ur head, the official mid-A rap thread!
Where there's black people there's Chinese restaurants and nail salons.
Some of these dudes are the type that if you step on their shoes or something dumb like that they're ready to fight.
And, if I bring them I'll usually have to cover their bill/they don't ever have any money to come out with me.
I do have friends, doesn't mean they're all great friends. -__-
Ask yourself, what do your friends bring to you that makes them such good people to have as friends? Hanging out with someone who is willing to give a beat down at any given moment is asking for trouble, another reason I don't ride motorcycles with people I don't know. Someone does something stupid and runs, I get pulled over and ticketed or my bike impounded.
Your friend beats down some dude and you don't step in to stop it, you'll get put down as a helper.
So why do you have these friends? Sounds like if anything they're holding you back.
Originally Posted by Shindigity
Some of these dudes are the type that if you step on their shoes or something dumb like that they're ready to fight.
And, if I bring them I'll usually have to cover their bill/they don't ever have any money to come out with me.
I do have friends, doesn't mean they're all great friends. -__-
Your friend beats down some dude and you don't step in to stop it, you'll get put down as a helper.
So why do you have these friends? Sounds like if anything they're holding you back.
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it's trust and character I need around me. You know, who you choose to be around you lets you know who you are. One car in exchange for knowing what a man's made of? That's a price I can live with.
Leave those deadbeats behind homie.
Do it slowly so you don't run into BS with em. People like that hate on successful people and seeing as how you have a car and they ride the bus they are likely already hating on you.
It sucks to lose friendships you have had for years and years but cut the losses now.
Do it slowly so you don't run into BS with em. People like that hate on successful people and seeing as how you have a car and they ride the bus they are likely already hating on you.
It sucks to lose friendships you have had for years and years but cut the losses now.
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Part of the reason I left NY was because either my friends were all going away to out of state schools or the ones who stayed behind weren't doing sh*t with their lives. At some point you need to decide which direction you want to go and make the necessary moves to get there.
As a minority, you already know the whole "crabs in a barrel" story. Those 'friends' of yours will see you trying to elevate yourself and drag you back down to their level.
Cut ties and find new people to hang with....just don't be calling/texting them at 2AM in the f*cking morning.
As a minority, you already know the whole "crabs in a barrel" story. Those 'friends' of yours will see you trying to elevate yourself and drag you back down to their level.
Cut ties and find new people to hang with....just don't be calling/texting them at 2AM in the f*cking morning.
Every relationship is a give & take: if you wish to elevate your company, be sure to have something to contribute back toward the group.
What everyone said here is correct; you'll never catch a successful person hanging out w/ a bunch of street thugs who can't even afford a car (and vice versa.)
What everyone said here is correct; you'll never catch a successful person hanging out w/ a bunch of street thugs who can't even afford a car (and vice versa.)
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crabs-in-a-barrel
A syndrome where a group of like situated people hurt those in their community attempting to get ahead.
Often this is applied to people in an impoverished community where one person is starting to get ahead. The collective community becomes jealous or filled with a sense of self-loathing, so they find a way to pull that person back down to the community's level.
When harvesting crab, the crab as a group will pull down any crab that starts to climb out of the barrel in an attempt to be the first out of the barrel that holds them in, hence crabs-in-a-barrel.
Sorry, this phrase is pretty common amongst minority communities. It's also where the term 'sell-out' comes into play because when you mature and try to elevate yourself the people you leave behind can't deal with the fact that you're making power moves and they aren't or can't. It's why you see alot of Black athletes and entertainers winding up in jail because someone in their crew was holding drugs, guns or holding illegal dogfighting rings at one of their houses.
A syndrome where a group of like situated people hurt those in their community attempting to get ahead.
Often this is applied to people in an impoverished community where one person is starting to get ahead. The collective community becomes jealous or filled with a sense of self-loathing, so they find a way to pull that person back down to the community's level.
When harvesting crab, the crab as a group will pull down any crab that starts to climb out of the barrel in an attempt to be the first out of the barrel that holds them in, hence crabs-in-a-barrel.
Sorry, this phrase is pretty common amongst minority communities. It's also where the term 'sell-out' comes into play because when you mature and try to elevate yourself the people you leave behind can't deal with the fact that you're making power moves and they aren't or can't. It's why you see alot of Black athletes and entertainers winding up in jail because someone in their crew was holding drugs, guns or holding illegal dogfighting rings at one of their houses.
I can agree and disagree with this. One of my REALLY good friends from high school would always have my back and never screw me over. But he carried a .38 around with him all the time and then got into heroin. He got his *** beat by DC police and even admitted he deserved it. I realized it was time to cut him out of my life. As hard as it is to put close friends in the past, at times you have to.