Thanks very much Beezee and everyone else. One final question, is this the bypass I need?

http://www.amazon.com/MicroBypass-Au...ef=cm_cmu_pg_t

I know I dont just ground it but Im not sure if this is what I need. I ordered it already so any help would be great cause If I dont need it I will cancel the order.

 

This works but looks similar to yours. Fact is they are all relays concealed in those wraps.
http://www.ebay.com/itm/PIONEER-AVH-...item19cef58236

The proceduire is as shown in this video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lDGZE...eature=related

You could easily put together your own