Dating Girl With Potential To Be Hot?
02-02-2011, 09:20 PM
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Dating Girl With Potential To Be Hot?
This has been an on going struggle in my head! What's better than asking my fellow Mid-A ricers for opinions/suggestions? Would you date a girl who currently isn't hot but clearly has the potential to be hot? To be specific I am talking about a girl who is overweight but clearly would be smoking hot if she loses some pounds. Oh and she has awesome personality. Now here are my thoughts and concerns.... it could go either way.
1. If we start dating and I never mention the fact that I'd prefer her to lose weight, she'd never lose weight since "Oh he already likes the way I am so why bother?"
2. If I put it out there that I like her personality but would like her to lose weight, she'd either tell me to fuck off, or she'd stay with me until she loses weight and moves on with her life as her ultimate revenge. Or she'd lose weight and starts to get attention that she never had before and that cool personality is gone all the sudden.
PS: Don't judge me! We all have preferences!
1. If we start dating and I never mention the fact that I'd prefer her to lose weight, she'd never lose weight since "Oh he already likes the way I am so why bother?"
2. If I put it out there that I like her personality but would like her to lose weight, she'd either tell me to fuck off, or she'd stay with me until she loses weight and moves on with her life as her ultimate revenge. Or she'd lose weight and starts to get attention that she never had before and that cool personality is gone all the sudden.
PS: Don't judge me! We all have preferences!
02-02-2011, 09:36 PM
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Feeling like one of those match.com interview
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02-02-2011, 10:15 PM
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No need for an inquisition complete with photos. But anything that you might like to share would be helpful. After all, your demeanor seems to indicate that you’re special enough for her to have to change herself for you.
Also, if she trusts you with intimate pictures don’t be a cad and post them here. The rabble on this forum will howl like hyenas for them, but remember, a gentleman never kisses and tells!
Also, if she trusts you with intimate pictures don’t be a cad and post them here. The rabble on this forum will howl like hyenas for them, but remember, a gentleman never kisses and tells!
02-02-2011, 10:47 PM
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Loving the female threads lately, lol. Right, down my alley. So, you have a girl that has potential to be hot..hmmmmm. How overweight are we talking here? 15 lbs overweight, 30lbs overweight, 100lbs overweight? I need more info on this. As you may know some girls can lose weight fairly easy and some don't. This is also the way I see it. If you aren't in good shape and don't work out 4 to 6 days a week don't expect that out of your girl. If you aren't a 8 or 9 or more on the rector scale don't expect her to be. I've never changed a girl in my life but that's probably because I only date 8's and up. I need more info bro.
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02-03-2011, 06:17 AM
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Without knowing many specifics, here are some general things I see.
First, most 10s dont date 3s in hopes the 3s turn into 10s. So, if you are even thinking of dating her now, then you and her must be on a fairly similar level already. (example she's a 6 and your an 8)
Second, so if you guys are on a similar level now, what happens when she loses some weight and gets hotter? If she's a 6 and can get an 8 like you. When she's an 8 she should be able to get a 10. Then what?
Third, her personality is part of the whole package. Our experiences over time shape us into who we are. Being overweight may contribute to her personality. If she loses the weight then she will most certainly shift to a different mental state.
I can see the following scenarios.
1. She stays the same and you realize her true beauty and love her for who she is.
2. You never know what could have been, because you go to ask her out now and she says no.
3. She gets hotter and posts on one of her forums "Dating a guy that has potential to be hot"
4. She gets hotter and you post on here "Help, need to get ripped fast"
5. She gets bigger and you start a new thread "Buyers Remorse, should I keep her?"
6. She getts really big and you start a new thread "OMG, my Z is slammed when my chick rides with me"
First, most 10s dont date 3s in hopes the 3s turn into 10s. So, if you are even thinking of dating her now, then you and her must be on a fairly similar level already. (example she's a 6 and your an 8)
Second, so if you guys are on a similar level now, what happens when she loses some weight and gets hotter? If she's a 6 and can get an 8 like you. When she's an 8 she should be able to get a 10. Then what?
Third, her personality is part of the whole package. Our experiences over time shape us into who we are. Being overweight may contribute to her personality. If she loses the weight then she will most certainly shift to a different mental state.
I can see the following scenarios.
1. She stays the same and you realize her true beauty and love her for who she is.
2. You never know what could have been, because you go to ask her out now and she says no.
3. She gets hotter and posts on one of her forums "Dating a guy that has potential to be hot"
4. She gets hotter and you post on here "Help, need to get ripped fast"
5. She gets bigger and you start a new thread "Buyers Remorse, should I keep her?"
6. She getts really big and you start a new thread "OMG, my Z is slammed when my chick rides with me"
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02-03-2011, 06:47 AM
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^ PUAHAHHAHAA....
Oh gosh.... how did I not know this thread would become a personal issue rather than a general concern. I hate to judge myself but if I must I would consider myself a decent looking guy (Mid-A fellows can you please be homo once and vouch for that?). I'm 5'10" and about 175 lbs (eharmony.com wooohooo!). College graduate and have a pretty decent job. I refuse to rate myself on a 1 to 10 scale. But I could tell you relativity doesn't fail. Meaning I used to date girls that are obviously way hotter/skinner than this girl that I just met. So I know what I am capable of. But lets get down to the sophisticated level. This girl is down to earth, etc. But I'm just concerned if her awesome personality would remain once she becomes (if she does) more physically attractive?
Oh gosh.... how did I not know this thread would become a personal issue rather than a general concern. I hate to judge myself but if I must I would consider myself a decent looking guy (Mid-A fellows can you please be homo once and vouch for that?). I'm 5'10" and about 175 lbs (eharmony.com wooohooo!). College graduate and have a pretty decent job. I refuse to rate myself on a 1 to 10 scale. But I could tell you relativity doesn't fail. Meaning I used to date girls that are obviously way hotter/skinner than this girl that I just met. So I know what I am capable of. But lets get down to the sophisticated level. This girl is down to earth, etc. But I'm just concerned if her awesome personality would remain once she becomes (if she does) more physically attractive?
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02-03-2011, 07:32 AM
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If she didn't lose weight before she met you, what makes you think she'll do it after you start dating. I'd have to say next this one. The locus for weight loss and fitness comes from within. You can't force her, and if you try, even casually to push her to it, she'll probably end up resenting you and she'll still be overweight.
The personality counts for a lot, and it is a deal breaker. But if you think the weight thing is something that will weigh heavily on your mind, then this is not the girl for you.
The personality counts for a lot, and it is a deal breaker. But if you think the weight thing is something that will weigh heavily on your mind, then this is not the girl for you.
02-03-2011, 07:37 AM
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Damn it bb13, this isn’t a new set of wheels for your Z, your forum friends can lend you their wisdom for decisions like that. If you’re attracted to this person, stop over-thinking it, get off your ***, and go for it. We’re not Yentas we don’t have the power to be long distance matchmakers.
If you’re having reservations about this, just get out of the way, I’m betting there is a hundred guys who also see her great qualities.
If you’re having reservations about this, just get out of the way, I’m betting there is a hundred guys who also see her great qualities.
02-03-2011, 08:05 AM
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Physical attraction = #1 priority
Example:
If she looked like this with the absolute most best personality in the world... no guy in the right mind would even care.
However, the smarter guy looks for the undercover hottie (which seems like this is the case) A girl that doesn't know she's hot, so she isn't plagued by society and thinks she owns the world and all the men on it.
You need to attract her w/o officially going out w/ her (just in case other hotter/better personality women come by) just keep her interested ENOUGH to make her perform subtle changes in her lifestyle, but never put all your eggs in one basket just in case your plan fails and all your ricer friends will be like, "yo dude... you see Ethan's new GF? LOLZ!!! How do they even have xxx?!? Oh MAN! She must totally crush the poor Asian!"
The only way to get someone to do something (and stick to it) is to make them WANT to do it (i.e. lose weight). If you outright say, "cut the cheese burgers fatass." She might go crying to her girlfriends saying that she met the biggest douchebag in the universe. The trick is to be an undercover douchebag while appearing to be prince charming. Though, you're technically not being a douchebag, you're "looking out for her health and well-being!"
Women are emotional creatures, so its best to attack the emotions to promote change. A guy for example you can be more direct with, "hey dude, you're getting fat, hit the gym with me."
"Sure thing man, sounds like a great plan."
Whereas for women, it's more like, "Your friend Samantha, wow, she's looking really fit and great!" Create an indirect jealousy gambit while *hinting* she should hit the gym. Next thing you know, she'll be on the treadmill in no time.
Example:
If she looked like this with the absolute most best personality in the world... no guy in the right mind would even care.
However, the smarter guy looks for the undercover hottie (which seems like this is the case) A girl that doesn't know she's hot, so she isn't plagued by society and thinks she owns the world and all the men on it.
You need to attract her w/o officially going out w/ her (just in case other hotter/better personality women come by) just keep her interested ENOUGH to make her perform subtle changes in her lifestyle, but never put all your eggs in one basket just in case your plan fails and all your ricer friends will be like, "yo dude... you see Ethan's new GF? LOLZ!!! How do they even have xxx?!? Oh MAN! She must totally crush the poor Asian!"
The only way to get someone to do something (and stick to it) is to make them WANT to do it (i.e. lose weight). If you outright say, "cut the cheese burgers fatass." She might go crying to her girlfriends saying that she met the biggest douchebag in the universe. The trick is to be an undercover douchebag while appearing to be prince charming. Though, you're technically not being a douchebag, you're "looking out for her health and well-being!"
Women are emotional creatures, so its best to attack the emotions to promote change. A guy for example you can be more direct with, "hey dude, you're getting fat, hit the gym with me."
"Sure thing man, sounds like a great plan."
Whereas for women, it's more like, "Your friend Samantha, wow, she's looking really fit and great!" Create an indirect jealousy gambit while *hinting* she should hit the gym. Next thing you know, she'll be on the treadmill in no time.
