I take it that you enjoyed working on the car, and it's your hobby/passion, right? That's really sad. Did you let her know just how much not having the car affects you? Unless you had an unhealthy lifestyle about the car (you spent more than you can afford on the car and were up to your eyeballs in debt, or you were so aggressive driving it that you were a danger to yourself and those around you), she shouldn't be forcing you to change who you are. Even worse, she's just a girlfriend--not even your wife.

Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself, are you going to be happy with her controlling your life?

 

Yeah. I really don't have an answer.

I don't feel like myself any more though. That car was a part of me - my personality. It's odd for it to be completely gone now.

I tried modding the FX a little, but my heart just isn't in it like it was the Z. I figure one day though, when I'm older and can afford a second car, I will buy a Z just like the one I used to have and only drive it on really nice days. That's my dream at least.

I think she just felt I needed a more "grown up" car. I convinced myself that that's what I wanted as well. Sold what I had worked on so hard for the past few years before I was ready to.

 

pretty much every girl will hate it whether they tell you or not. you see a HKS exhaust, rims, etc, they see money that you could have spent on them. jealousy, greed is an ugly thing. my good friend's wife always comes out to the garage and whines he spends too much time working on the car. translation: "im an attention ***** and you need to spend more attention to me." he gets in trouble...i just laugh at the situation. are people really that insecure these days....

 

no, not every girl. be careful of making wide-swept generalizations.

 

Maxi-

Sorry you no longer have the Z dude. Long before i joined this forum, i used to lurk around here and just read information about the Z... hoping to get it one day. Your car was one of my favorites and was deff a contributing factor in me wanting to get a Z in the first place.

 

thats why i said "pretty" much every girl and not every girl

from reading your posts in the past, i can honestly say that you are one of the few that has your head on straight.

 

thanks, i try.

i'd like to thank the academy...and my parents...

 

Someone like you--a girl who enjoys cars and modifying--is maybe 1 in 10,000? (maybe even less)

I just hope you end up with a guy that can appreciate the fact that he's with a car nut. I'd be sad if you were wasted on with a guy that questions you for spending too much time/money on your car.

 

uh..i wouldn't 'end up' with him, then.

 

Well, you never know. At first he might be just pretending to enjoy the hobby, only to realize too late that he actually doesn't approve! I think that's how many guys get duped into selling their beloved cars for their...beloved.

 

if he doesn't approve, his *** is getting kicked to the curb. i wouldn't change my true self for someone else, it would straight up be living a lie. i'd just end up bitter and angry at them.

 

I'm single but alot of the girls I date love it. One girl had more mods on her Z then I did. But now I have more. Haha

 

My girlfriend bought my window tint for me and buys little things for my car. Gotta love her.

 

If only some of these guys here had ***** like you... (figurative sense)

 

Thanks man. Really appreciate the kind words on the Z. I was really proud of it when I had it.

Don't feel sorry for me. I'll be back in the game soon. Getting rid of the Z was ultimately my choice. Life lesson learned. Sometimes you have to make the wrong choice before you know whats right. I thought about getting another one and heavily modding it. Wouldn't be the same though. Lookout for me in a couple years when the GT-R is available. I have a funny feeling the girlfriend won't be getting first priority then.

 

another dumb guy question(at least for my case): why is it that I find "alot" of times girls have more control over guys?!....it's soo hard for me to "kick a girl to the curb" instead, I just submit....and do prty-much anything to make her happy at the same time, me on the other hand.....will?!.....kindda get lost?!.....

heeewww....I asked my fiance this one time and....jeeez....she blew her head-gasket.....saying....."if you feel being controled....then you're in a wrong relationship and this.....and that.....yadayadayada!!!!"....

 

guys won't admit it but they're just as afraid of ending up alone as most girls, which is why they'll put up with a lot of **** from girls [the 'control' youre talking about]
personally ive never had that fear. i could give a rat's ***, really. i'm probably too selfish, which is one of the reasons i dont want kids, either. i mean i can't speak for all girls, i can only speak for myself. and i know that pretty much any time i've come close to being in a serious relationship i freak out and run away.. committment scares me like no other. i also HATE the idea of being owned by a guy..and most guys have that feeling about their girlfriends/wives. they're a possession. i am not an object to be owned.

end of mini rant.

 

....what you've said makes alot of sense....I think I do treat her like my property....so I guess fear of losing her comes natrually.....

I'm gonna talk to her about this tonight, I think she'll apriciate this!!!

Thanks!!!

 

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